Defining Moments

What if you had the opportunity to turn back the hand of time and erase some of your unwanted memories? What if someone handed you a magic wand and you were able to change the past with a simple wave? You wish right? not a chance in reality! The simple truth is for most of us the things we do in the past stay with us forever. 

Think back as far as you can remember, what was the most stupid thing you ever did? That one thing everyone warned you against but you still went ahead only to regret it later. We all have those moments, those times your Mom warned against marrying that dreamy guy that turned out to be a joke. Or buying that used car that turned out to be a money drainer.  There are defining moments in the lives of everyone, that one decision that either promotes you or takes you back a couple of years. The bad decision to spend money on things you know you can not afford; the unwise decision to settle into an abusive relationship because all your friends are getting married. The ridiculous decision to wear you hair short when you know it took years to grow it in the first place (this one is specially for my African Sistas). 

If only you could just see the future, if only you could just tell what tomorrow would bring; a lot of the things we consider important today will fall short on the scale of relevance.

Many year ago I met a young man who had nothing to offer me but a chance to love and be loved. Of all my suitors he offered nothing of material relevance only a promise of a great future. I weighed him against others and the only thing he had going for him was his heart - filled with honest love and compassion. I judged him for his heart; even against all the pieces of silver in this world, the scale titled heavily in his favor. 

I look back on that decision today and I can see how that single defining moment of choice has made me who I am today - a better person than who I was before I met him. Every woman has her what-if moment, would you share yours? What defining moments are you proud or not proud of? We sure can learn from others.