On my nightstand was a copy of Germaine Copeland’s book- Prayers that avail much, I turned the pages to Section D- Preparing Self for Marriage.
“Father, sometimes being single can be so lonely, so painful. Seeing people in pairs, laughing and having fun, makes me feel even more alone and different.”
I sure could relate with that, and felt quite relieved to know my feelings were not out of place after all! The prayer went on as follows:
“Lord, please comfort me in these times. Help me to deal with my feelings and thoughts in an appropriate way…”Amen.
Backing up, I realized the hurts I felt were fueled by MY pitiful thoughts towards MYSELF. So I needed to set my thoughts straight. That was, and still is not an easy task! Philippians 4:8 “…whatsoever things are True, whatsoever things are Honest, whatsoever things are Just, whatsoever things are Pure, whatsoever things are Lovely, whatsoever things are of Good report; if there be any Virtue, and if there be any Praise, think on these things.” So what are the true, honest, just, pure, lovely, good, virtuous and praiseworthy (THJPLGVP) thoughts I should feed my emotions? How about this? - I AM COMPLETE!!!
Yes, complete in the Lord Jesus Christ. I am equipped with all that I need to achieve milestones in my ministry, career and life in general with or without a spouse. Marriage is adorable, desirable and at most complimenting. But God completes each person with gifts, and sets us on paths which we would eventually be accountable for as a single individual- just you! I do not want to feel like I have missed out on life- having fun, enjoying great friendships, serving in ministries or achieving my career goals because I thought I was incomplete. While looking forward to being married, I choose to reach out to the heights, reaffirming to myself that I am complete!
Ever found yourself in mind battles or having to counsel friends or families facing loneliness? Share your THJPLGVP thoughts…
Written by Ifejesu Ade
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Fireproof Your Marriage Couple's Kit (Book)
The Love Dare (Book)